This post has nothing to do with being an author or writing a book but I want to share this news with the world. Today, I am adopting a child. I wanted to let you all read this letter I wrote to be read inside the courtroom…
Adoption, wow, it’s a big commitment. Basically, we are vowing to take care of and love someone else’s child for the rest of her life. We have no biological ties to her, not much history with her, and we are under no obligation to do so, yet, here we are, doing this monumentally brave thing. There is so much that could go wrong but so much that could go right.
I have known from very early on that I wanted to adopt a child. We have had no infertility issues, in fact just the opposite. Together with my husband, I have given birth to three wonderfully active and relatively normal children. I love them with all my heart and would fight to the death for any one of them. My life has been complete for almost six years now. Then I received a phone call from Job and Family Services stating they had an eleven year old girl that needed a place to live. We didn’t hesitate to say we’d take her. She was very quiet when she came into our home but gradually became more and more comfortable with us. Our intent wasn’t necessarily to adopt but she grew on us in a good way.
The road getting here has not been paved with rose pedals and rainbows, the truth is, some days have been pretty rough. Raising a child that didn’t grow up with your own morals and standards is not easy by any means. However, I have seen her thrive in our home and grow into a wonderful young lady. She and I have had long meaningful conversations about life and we have gotten very close. When she calls me “Mom”, I believe she knows that I am a person that is only out to make her life better and to love her unconditionally.
In the future, I know that I will most likely hear things like, “I hate you” or “You’re ruining my life” and frankly, I don’t think I’d be a good parent if I didn’t hear those things. My goal is not to give my children everything they want. My goal is to make sure they grow up safe and happy and that they feel loved. I might not always like them, but I will always love them.
So on this 24th day of March in the year 2014, we will make it official. We will not only give her the loving home she deserves, we will also give her our last name.
Well, it’s official! She is ours! 🙂